That is the provocative title of a blog post I ran across today. I wanted to share it with all of you. The author is fired up about the standard advice Christian spouses give each other about sex:
“it’s the same thing I’ve seen over and over in the evangelical christian community. It goes something like this…
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“You need to be having more sex”
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“It’s your duty to make sure your sex life is spontaneous, passionate, and fun.”
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“If you’re having problems in your marriage, it could be your sex life is off. Your spouse’s sexual frustration could be causing friction. Try having more sex to see if that fixes the issue.”
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“You should have sex everyday for X number of days.” (The “X” varies, from 30 to a whole year…I’m not even kidding.)
If you’re interested to hear her take on this, read the whole post here.
Mid-Missouri Natural Family Planning (NFP) 
This reminds me of Theology of the Body. I’ve been learning a lot, listening to Christopher West’s talks on Theology of the Body. He talks about St. John Paul II’s reflections on Matthew 5:28, “But I say to you, everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” This applies to how a husband looks at his wife–JP II says that if a husband looks at his wife in this way he commits adultery against her. West also reflects on how if a couple spends their entire dating and engagement focused on “No”, then come the wedding night their “Yes” will mean nothing (if you start out focused on angelism then you’ll swing fully opposite to animalism). All of this, of course, pertains to the crux of Theology of the Body–the nuptial meaning of the body; our life is a gift from God and we are in turn to receive it as a gift and give ourselves back as a gift. This is how we are called to live in all aspects of our life, especially in our relationships with God and one another. If we are bound by our lust then we are incapable of receiving the gift. West comments on how we can say that society places too much emphasis on sex, when it reality it doesn’t even come close to realizing how valuable it is! The nuptial meaning of the body, marriage, and the marital act are meant to be a foreshadowing, a taste, of the eternal marriage feast. What we see in our “sex-crazed” society is what happens when you forget the nuptial meaning of the body and become turned in on yourself–instead of rocketing to the stars you rocket to the Earth and everything implodes.
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